How It Feels

The beginning is usually the same. Starts as an idea, conversation, suggestion, or question. The idea comes to life almost immediately upon contact. Breathing intensifies, worsened by your attempts at controlling it. The body just knows that the opportunity to fulfill its inherent biological and evolutionary imperative has presented itself. The mind no longer needs your permission and proceeds to prepare you for what's about to happen.

Men have a faster metabolic rate and as a result, produce more heat than women. When you are aroused the difference becomes obvious. Cells and bodily functions don't respond to voice commands but they do respond to physical stimuli and heat plays a vital role, the female body reacts instinctively. "Feel my heat, feel my desire, feel the burning passion my body is so eager to unleash on you". Hold them close and try to close all the spaces that may develop between the two of you as a result of the curvature our bodies have. Begin the merging process. The goal is to unite.

The beginning, awkward as it may be, offers an opportunity to relax into the moment. Allowing the hormones to course through you. Welcome the mental and physical changes they bring. Be willing and accepting, be deliberate, always. Your subconscious has enough work to do, chip in.

Touch here and touch there. Unlike men, women have more softer bits and rounder edges. Run your hands all along her body and allow it to become aware of your presence and ready itself to welcome you. We all respond to this sort of physical stimulus but women are particularly more sensitive to it.

Place your hands gently, in passing, on all the places that would normally be reserved for her alone. Nothing is off-limits because the goal is to simply convey intent without using any words.

The area around the armpit; Even if she is ticklish, especially if she's ticklish, you want to run your hands over her body, deliberately & sensually. Giving attention to the breasts as well. Gentle but firm, you know where you're going and she'll have no choice but to let you go there. Allow your hands to travel and pay close attention to the responses of her body.

The inner thigh; All that sensitive tissue waiting to be caressed. Purposeful, deliberate but gentle. You want to feel the thighs, moving always from the knee and traveling up. You want her body to be aware you're coming and allow it to let go of the natural instinct to protect, to defend. The goal is to be let in, to be welcomed, desired.

The intergluteal cleft; or simply her ass crack. You want to shallowly stick the tips of your fingers inside her crack and listen for breathing. If you and your partner regularly partake in ass-play then this might be a source of excitement, either that or you don't and this will either go unnoticed or immediately grab her attention. You want to create an immersive experience, raising awareness as much as possible. Both of you being entirely present in the moment is the goal. My hands, only going where I intend them to, never encroaching (This is assuming a conversation on boundaries has already been had), will now run along the cleft, to again promote familiarity, to give your partner the chance to ease into it.

A variety of other locations on her could be receiving attention but the goal is to form a quick physical and mental connection. Connected.

Penetration is always the best part for most men. That thick shaft is topped but a delicate cluster of nerve endings that are ready to have a good time. Stroking, trusting, you want to maintain the physical connection. Women seem to enjoy more than one point of stimulation so never lose focus.

Placing open palms on any overly exposed areas of skin. Purposefully, you want to share your warmth, the intention does more than the actions themselves. When penetrating from behind you either lower yourself onto her or raise her to you. When in missionary you want to lower yourself till you are chest to chest. Raising her legs for deeper penetration is an added bonus from the Missionary. When penetrating from below you want to ensure your hips have full mobility, supported by your legs and back (This position allows either of you to control tempo and depth of penetration, useful).

Control your breathing and feel your heart thumping. Feel your erect penis and find stillness in that awareness because you are about to use it. Now that you have established this mind-body connection, use your body as a tool. Feel inside her, feel the texture or her walls, the sensations you get from them, and her reactions to your presence inside her. Feel for any areas of different texture and her reaction to your contact with these areas.

Repeat, quickly but gently and always purposefully. You don't wanna get lost in the sauce and bust a nut (if you already have, congratulations, and thanks for cuming). Use this period to build a baseline of what you think are genuine and involuntary (but good) moans and sounds. If she's speaking to you, listen.

Rinse, repeat, and wait for it to happen. It will. Listen to her and her body. Rinse, repeat.

Create an experience. Gingerly run your tongue along the floor of her mouth. Hold her tighter. Share your heat (essence). Pressure on the neck. Bombard the senses, allow your body to send out a primal and sensual message then envelope her in it.

It's fun sometimes.