Monk Scroll

  Recently had a good friend send me a short clip from a YouTube debate on the practicality of monogamy. The group of four were basically discussing why monogamy is flawed and why jealousy as a concept is frowned upon in all aspects of one’s life except in their love lives. The gist was that wanting to keep someone all to yourself is incredibly selfish. They covered that monogamy in this day and age is safe and is more efficient but not necessarily the right way to go. Now I’m not an expert on the matter but I feel like it is commonly known that we as a species have moved from wanting to impregnate every female of our species (an evolutionary trait designed to ensure the survival of a species) to rather finding a match, pairing up and staying with them.  The need for meaningful long-lasting emotional connections have outgrown a past desire to simply have dozens of sexual partners. In my personal opinion, jealousy is very warranted in relationships not only tha...

Now, this is not about cheating but it comes close. I was asked why it is I that men get easily distracted by other females (assuming the men in question already had women in their lives). In my personal opinion society is to blame for everything that ever went wrong. ANYWHERE. Here is why. Being born a man comes with certain unspoken, unwritten rules that you have to follow, the same as being born a woman. Some of these rules include that men are expected to initiate romantic exchanges of any kind. If you like a girl or if that girl likes you for that matter you’re expected to make the first move, say hi, ask for her number, etc. The entire process of courtship begins with you, so that being said boys are basically trained to shoot their shot no matter what and if they miss they just pick the ball up and shoot again, rinse and repeat. Every woman we meet that is physically attractive becomes a potential “mate”. It’s not like she would walk up to you and tell you if she liked you...

Not going to take a dump on anyone or anyone’s belief system but let us engage and be objective for a brief moment and discuss the reasons for some of the things we do rather than discuss the things themselves. I'm no expert but hey opinions, we've all got them right? Why do people believe? In what? In anything! I mean let me go ahead and start with a few basics. Horoscopes. I mean come on, let’s be reasonable for a second. At what point did it seem like a good idea to think that we, as insignificant a species  as we are  or even as a planet are somehow at the center of some intergalactic system that allows one to in an extremely vague manner predict the future. That all these monstrously enormous astrological objects that look like mere shiny dots from  our perspective move millions of kilometers just to allow us to predict the future. The fact that your horoscope is shared by hundreds of millions of other people and is still expected to apply to all of yo...

Observing how people interact has allowed me to pick up this unspoken chess game people play every time they interact with someone. Every interaction or exchange (or close enough to that) always has a tone one of the parties in the exchange has set, it is this ability that allows people to flirt without really saying what’s on their minds. People are intelligent creatures but sometimes it’s not as direct as flirting, sometimes during a conversation with someone new people are silently gauging how much respect to hand you once the conversation is done or trying to somehow establish themselves as the dominant figure in that particular relationship (exchange) by boxing you into a corner. Openly being rude, undermining your intelligence, provoking an emotional response, subtly highlighting any visible or hidden insecurities you might have, all these things put one person at a disadvantage in the interaction because they come off weaker afterward. Leaving them feeling smaller or itchi...

As the days go by, at some point during each day I have to ask myself why I still don’t know what I want to do with my future. I never particularly loved anything while growing up, I had no amazing dreams of being an engineer or some doctor, I had and still don’t have anything I feel connected to in that sense even after spending the last three years of my life becoming a developer.  I wish someone had genuinely sat me down and asked me. Not in passing or somehow turning that exchange into some sort of scolding but actually talked to me and helped me understand that I need to take the time out to ask myself these questions. I hate the idea of pointing fingers at others and blaming them for whatever it is in my life that isn’t working out but every so often I am absolutely appalled by the sheer lack of guidance I received growing up.  I mean I was never the most compliant of children so I will not act as if I would have welcomed said guidance but I mean let’s be reasonabl...